16 Danger Signs of Relapse
Danger Signs of Relapse (And How to Notice Them in Everyday Life)
I came across this excellent list on Facebook. While it appears to have originated in AA (Alcoholics Anonymous), I believe the wisdom applies far beyond formal recovery programs.
After all, “addiction” isn’t only about alcohol or drugs. We can also become hooked on patterns of behavior—ways of thinking, coping, or relating—that keep us stuck. These habits might not look like classic addiction, but they can hold us back from growth and change.
If the traditional AA language doesn’t resonate with you, feel free to adapt it. Replace AA, sponsor, or meetings with friends, family, community, or support system. The principles remain the same.
Relapse, in this sense, doesn’t have to mean returning to alcohol or drug use. It can also mean slipping back into old behaviors you’ve been working hard to change. At its core, relapse prevention is about being mindful and paying attention to what’s going on inside you.
16 Danger Signs of Relapse
Exhaustion — Pushing yourself too hard, often through work or busyness, as a way of avoiding frustrations or emotions.
Dishonesty — Starting with small lies and excuses, which can grow into self-deception and denial.
Impatience — The “I want it now” mindset. Expecting others (or life) to operate on your timeline.
Argumentativeness — Needing to debate every little point, escalating disagreements into anger.
Depression — Unexplained or lingering despair that is hidden instead of expressed and explored.
Frustration — Anger or resentment when things don’t go your way; difficulty with acceptance.
Self-Pity — Feeling victimized, used, unappreciated, or singled out for bad luck.
Cockiness — Believing you’ve “got it made” and deliberately exposing yourself to risky situations (bars, parties, toxic relationships).
Complacency — Slipping away from routines and supports because you feel “cured” or invincible.
Expecting Too Much of Others — Wanting people to read your mind or change as quickly as you have, leading to disappointment and resentment.
Letting Up on Disciplines — Skipping the habits that support growth (meditation, journaling, exercise, therapy, spiritual practices, or connecting with supportive people).
Using Mood-Altering Chemicals — Misusing medication or substances to dull uncomfortable emotions instead of addressing them.
Wanting Too Much — Setting unrealistic goals or placing too much importance on material success over personal or spiritual growth.
Forgetting Gratitude — Losing sight of everyday blessings, often because you’re focused on what you don’t yet have.
“It Can’t Happen to Me” — Feeling immune to relapse or struggle, forgetting that addiction and old habits are progressive and sneaky.
Omnipotence — A mix of arrogance, denial, and overconfidence; ignoring warnings or advice from those who care about you.
Final Thoughts
You don’t have to be in AA or struggling with substance use to recognize yourself in this list. Most of us have been caught by at least one of these danger signs at some point—whether it’s exhaustion, impatience, self-pity, or forgetting gratitude.
The key is awareness. Relapse (whether into drinking, drugs, or unhealthy patterns) doesn’t happen overnight—it builds quietly. Paying attention to these red flags can help you stay present, grounded, and aligned with the growth you’ve been working toward.